One of my fans, a reviewer no less, asked fairly recently when Saje Williams would deliver a sexually explicit scene for his fans. Now, erotic fantasy and paranormal fiction is the rage right now, with hundreds of female authors raising temperatures across the globe with their explicit depictions of sex. From my perspective, that’s great, because it represents women taking charge of their own sexuality.
But I can’t help but see any attempt for a man to do something similar as having more in common with plain ol’ smut, which is for the most part inclined to cater to the tastes of men more than women–being for our satisfaction and tittilation more than as a way to help women explore their own sexuality.
So the short answer to this question is, “probably never.”
In my latest project, a short story, I have written a sex scene, but it’s written in such a way that it emphasizes something other than the physical act itself.
I’ve written my female characters as empowered, fully-engaged people who control themselves first and foremost. The most beautiful woman in my books never even pauses long enough to consider herself a sexual being–at least not until my most recent novels, in which I introduce her partner. I wanted Jaz to be about something else. Sure, she’s gorgeous, but her apparent ignorance or disinterest in this fact about herself is part of who she is. I didn’t want her to be a sexualized being first. That’s something she has to grow into on her own terms. Even her eventual realization of her sexual orientation, while being of a nature that might entice many men in and of itself, is not written in such a way that it should provoke a prurient interest on the part of male readers.
Now where I write romance, it can be said that in this context, “romance” more represents a more classic view of the concept, the kind that includes both romance and adventure as a whole piece. It’s about equals fighting together to preserve or attain something important to both of them, and falling in love at the same time. The romance is not necessarily the primary focus of the story, but it’s an integrel part nonetheless.
I don’t see how graphic sex scenes would aid in this presentation. I’m not sure I could do the story justice by overly sexualizing my female characters. In fact, I see just the opposite. Simply put, it’s not my place to bring my fantasies into my fantasy. The focus now is on female sexuality, and that’s the way it should be. I could bring nothing new to the table, and, in fact, would be cheapening something that, in my view, has nothing to do with me in the first place.
There might well be men who feel no discomfort doing so, but I am not one of them. This is, for the most part, women speaking to women and a dialogue I’m not sure requires my input.
So I think I’ll stick to doing what I do best. Creating kickass characters, both male and female, and letting them get about their business without having to worry about what they’re doing in bed. I’ll leave that up to the imagination of the readers. There’s always fanfic.